April 25, 2007Thank you
Dear Ben, I miss you even though you're in the other room. I steal glimpses of photos of you on my computer while you sleep and my heart melts and leaps and does twirly loop de loops... Maybe I'm missing you in advance because I know you are going to be with a babysitter today and I'm just a wee bit nervous about that. Okay. Lately you have been seriously checking out your hands. Down with toys! Up with hands! When you wake up in the morning and I bring you in bed with me, it's the very first thing we do. We examine your pudgy, white, little starfish hands. They are amazing! We marvel at all of the grabbing and reaching they do and how delicious they are to suck on. Today you kept doing a mini me Dr. Evil thing with your pinkie in your mouth that made me laugh. Do you know how funny you are? And then you remember your voice! You clear your throat with a few grunts and hmmm... hmmm.... and then off you go! You have a high, sweet, soft voice. You don't project too much yet, just soft coos and shouts that sound sometimes like "Hi!" Did I mention how cute you are? Lady: Oh my GAWD Frank. Take a look at this. There is so much I want to tell you... about the way you laugh when we sing you that song that daddy made up, or how much you love going to mom and baby yoga and how you follow the teacher around with your eyes so you can get her attention and give her flirty smiles. Should I tell you that you love the world so much that you want to be awake all the time? or should I mention that you are a big fan of the ladies and smile at every girl that passes you by? (the dudes pique your interest but you are very suspicious and you stare them down for a long, long time...) Maybe I should mention that even though you're not much for sleep you are always mellow and smiley and sweet as can be. I think it's safe to say you have charisma. Really, you do. Sigh. Anyway, Ben, there is so much to tell you I don't even know where to begin. I want to tell you about how much we wanted you, how we dreamed about you for so many years and tried everything we could think of to bring you into the world. I want to tell you about Dr. Rinaudo and his italian accent and how he said, "I feel very optimistic for you" and how that gave us exactly the right amount of hope we needed to keep going when things were so hard for so long. I want to tell you that you are our perfect boy who came at exactly the right time. Every time we see your face all we can say is Thank you thank you thank you... Posted on April 25, 2007 12:41 PMComments
Hello everyone, wanna be part of some kind of community, possible here? anyone here? Posted by: Buy best antivirus at May 10, 2007 01:17 PMa-this is so sweet and beautiful. your sentiments for ben are inspired. i just love listening to you talk to him. Posted by: pixie at May 1, 2007 02:27 PM...*tears, tears, tears*... Posted by: la vie en rose at May 1, 2007 11:18 AMI'm sitting here with a big smile on my face and a warm and fuzzy feeling in my heart.. I can't even say how happy I am for you. :) I swear Ben is getting cuter with every passing day! Posted by: luzie at April 30, 2007 01:00 PMthis is so stinking cute...it makes me cry. i couldn't be happier for your family. bless you guys. Posted by: amy at April 30, 2007 10:40 AMU made me tear up... I loved this entry!! You are a beautiful soul Andrea and Ben is a beautiful baby. That smile of his is so darn contagious! U have no idea how much of a pick-me up this entry was for me today...funny how I was drawn to check in today (sometimes I simply don't have the time...I'm a Mommy too) Posted by: glo at April 30, 2007 09:55 AMOK, so you might expect that other mothers will respond to your emotions and Ben's beauty ... but even those of us without our own little bundles are charmed by your little man and touched by your journey to and through motherhood. I swear when I check in and see a new Ben face it really brings joy into my heart. My mother is visiting with her friend from Germany, and when I saw this post, I called to her, "hey mom, you want to see a cute baby?" And she and her friend ran into my office and we all sat and cooed at Ben, all of us past the years of bearing children, but feeling that "baby urge" nonetheless. And I told them a little bit about your story, and we sat together feeling happy as we stared at the deep pools of newness that are Ben's eyes. Thanks, Andrea! Oh, and my mother now wants one of your necklaces for Mother's Day! :-) I'll be sending in an order ... Posted by: Pamela at April 29, 2007 11:36 PMI am so darn happy just thinking about what your Mother's Day wil be like this year. Yay BEN! ♥ Posted by: french toast girl at April 29, 2007 08:36 PMBeautiful entry for Ben! Posted by: rani Shah at April 28, 2007 10:07 PMMy favorite things about this picture: the little drool drop on his chin (there in the close-up of him in the red shirt, too!) and the way his hands are crossed. Also that he's so, so happy. Posted by: Dr. S at April 27, 2007 09:24 PMI've been so down this past week and pretty much decided that I was just too tired to keep trying anymore.... Thank you for the much needed hope. Posted by: francie pants at April 27, 2007 08:11 PMYour post brought tears to my eyes. He is blessed to have you as parents! Susan Posted by: Susan at April 27, 2007 04:29 PMthis child does have the magic now....:) adorable!! what a lucky boy to have you!!! xx Posted by: mccabe at April 27, 2007 09:38 AMi think you should keep writing him letters like this, A. it'll be good for him to know how you feel now. GRATEFUL!!!! celebrate and enjoy it all!!! xoxoxo Oh my goodness- you had to do it... beautiful picture and beautiful words... there are not enough tissues in the world. Ack! So much love, made me cry! What a beautiful beautiful tribute, Andrea. To Ben, to Matt, to your gift of loving. You healed so many today with that love. Posted by: Shelley Noble at April 27, 2007 12:31 AMbeautiful andrea...i'm so happy for you. Posted by: celisa at April 26, 2007 09:06 PMbeautiful. my baby just turned five. I think i need to write him a letter just like this. thank you for your endless sharing. Posted by: mandy at April 26, 2007 08:56 PMoh my goodness...this totally made me cry. i was sitting here on the couch with my laptop and Carsten was trying to talk to me while in the kitchen. i was completely absorbed in your letter to Ben. he finally got my attention and when i looked up, tears were flowing. i told him i just got to know Ben a bit better... *sigh* your story gives us hope. love you. Posted by: boho girl at April 26, 2007 05:38 PMi have a four and a haplf month old baby boy. is there anything better in this world? Posted by: ghost at April 26, 2007 01:07 PMOh, the tears you bring me. I love little Ben and I love you even IF I don't know you!!! Posted by: victoria winters at April 26, 2007 01:02 PMJust the right post on just the right day. Thank you for writing this. Posted by: Anja at April 26, 2007 12:55 PMJust wanted to say that I do think you have the cutest kid in existence. I sent a link to one of your earlier posts to my SO, telling him that if we could be guaranteed a baby as cute as yours that I would totally reconsider my no-babies policy(he is ready for children in a few years, me...not so much yet). I think you and Matt are and will be fantastic parents! Keep up with the adorable baby photos--I can't get enough! :) Posted by: Aimee at April 26, 2007 12:23 PMYour baby story gives me hope. I miscarried twins last December (my first pregnancy). I'm pregnant again, and have my first ultrasound tomorrow. I'm absolutely terrified, but after reading your post today (and knowing your fertility story), I'm also hopeful. Thanks. Posted by: MAT1976 at April 26, 2007 11:09 AMHe is definitely cute beyond measure. :o) Posted by: Jenny Rebecca at April 26, 2007 10:00 AMOh Andrea, thank you for putting this kind of hope and love out into the world. I'm touched by your words & the way you are able to express how magical your love is for your little one. He is so smiley! Pure Joy! xoxo, life is such a blessing. Posted by: jolene at April 26, 2007 09:45 AMOh my GAWD! So sweet! I am so happy you can savor this time. Posted by: dorrie at April 26, 2007 08:42 AMSo, so sweet! He is an absolutely beautiful baby! Boy, you blogging moms are making my heart melt today. Dooce also wrote an amazing blog about being a mom to a baby. You both are making my heart and ovaries quiver. I am so glad that you are so happy after all of the struggles you went through to bring Ben into the world. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us in bloggieland! Posted by: Piper at April 26, 2007 06:46 AMaww..aww...aww... I really enjoyed your post, thank you. It made me realise that other people do feel the same way about their babies as I do about my sweet little boy. Since my son was born, I have felt my heart grow bigger everyday and I have often wondered if every other mum in the world could possibly be as in love with their child as I am. But, of course they are! It reminds of when I first fell in love with my husband - I spent so long walking around on air and I used to look at people and wonder how they could possibly just go on with life as normal when (oh the joy!) I was in LOVE!! I felt like the world had stopped for me and that I was feeling things no-one else ever had. But, of course other people have felt the same, it was just so overwhelming for me at the time. At the time I didn't think life could get any better, but then it did the day my son was born. Some days I wonder how I can possibly survive my bursting heart...it is such a sweet pain...and he is only 13mths old, what will I be like when he is grown... Guess what - I just have to share - my son walked for the first time today!!! He was very pleased with himself and I am so proud. And, I caught it on video. You, Matt and Ben are so very blessed to have one another. Posted by: Michelle at April 26, 2007 04:41 AMThank YOU for sharing your writing and photos of beautiful Ben. Your story is so inspiring to me. We are doing the Clomid/IUI thing, and are in the midst of the excruciating wait to find out if it worked. I think about your story everyday, and it gives me hope that all of this waiting and wanting and crying just might have a happy ending. You are my (super) hero! :) Posted by: Betsy at April 26, 2007 12:06 AMWhat a wonderful letter to your son! It brought me right back to how I felt 3 1/2 years ago when our daughter was born after years of infertility. Even on her most trying toddler days, I still find myself saying Thank you thank you thank you... Ooo what a sweet sweet post. I am swelling up with tears and smiles at the same time.... Oh my gish, Ben is getting cuter everyday.... :) Will e-mail you in the nexy few days, it's been a little crazy here at the moment. P.S. Ben is the most luckiest, cutest baby to have parents like you..... Posted by: Toni at April 25, 2007 11:41 PMI cant sleep so of course your site is where I go first to see what is up with Ben. I am crying, crying and crying. Tears are filling up my keyboard. Beautiful. From the mom of the 'other cutest baby ever', you do have an exceptionally cute little guy there. There is something very wise about his young face. I can't go more than a half hour without pulling up a few photos of my son during his naps and after he goes down at night, this is of course on top of the frequent visits into his room 'just to make sure everything is all right'. Enjoy each and every moment. Posted by: andrea at April 25, 2007 09:01 PMblessed BE! and... I can scratch "read a beautiful letter today" from my list! This one moved me to tears. I reread three times. These parts are when the tears came: Should I tell you that you love the world so much that you want to be awake all the time? I want to tell you about how much we wanted you, how we dreamed about you for so many years and tried everything we could think of to bring you into the world. I want to tell you that you are our perfect boy who came at exactly the right time. Every time we see your face all we can say is Thank you thank you thank you... Posted by: Amy K. at April 25, 2007 08:27 PMi do the same thing every night..stare at photos of my son aftr i've put him to bed. don't know about you, but i'm forced to pry old ladies hands, who stick their fingers in his little hands, off of him. next time, he gets to keep the finger that i break off... Posted by: phillippa at April 25, 2007 07:31 PMThat was the most sweetest thing I've read in a really long time. He's cute, but I think mine is just a teeny bit cuter :) Posted by: Heather at April 25, 2007 07:10 PMBabies are the most wonderful, incredible, magical things God ever gave us the gift of having. Unfortunately, I was never blessed with one of my own but I enjoyed my nieces and nephews tons. Your little Ben is awesome! Posted by: Norma at April 25, 2007 04:26 PMHas anyone told you how cute he is yet? lol Posted by: mary at April 25, 2007 03:42 PMHas it really been four and a half months already? Though for you, I imagine it's been a very big, very bold, very full four and a half months...for me, outside looking in, it's been a blink. Welcome to parenthood...it all passes in a blink! I'm so glad you're taking time to rejoice. Posted by: jennifergg at April 25, 2007 03:13 PMit is so fabulous to know you are rejoicing. Posted by: Molly Merrick at April 25, 2007 02:58 PMAndrea, Good heavens, I wish I knew you in real life ( . . . or even online for that matter, but you know what I mean). You made me cry in the public library! "I want to tell you that you are our perfect boy who came at exactly the right time." I read your journey and cried with you and cried for joy when I read that beautiful Ben was on his way! The hubs and I are in some ways just starting out in our expanding the family efforts, but already it's taken longer than I hoped or assumed that it would, and "exactly the right time" was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you. I'm not just saying this - Thank you for sharing these warm and loving words. omg, that second to last paragraph brought tears to my eyes. :) Posted by: amanda at April 25, 2007 02:01 PMSuch a touching post - Andrea, as an unbiased observer who's seen a lot of babies, I'm here to tell you that he really is an exceptionally cute baby. He is super cute. He is an inspiration to prospective parents everywhere, myself included. Posted by: Jessica at April 25, 2007 01:33 PMso, so sweet. it makes me so happy to hear so much bliss and to see that smile. blessings to you both. Posted by: jen lemen at April 25, 2007 01:18 PMMan! That was touching. I'm so glad for the optimistic Italian accent doctor and the hilarious couple from New Jersey! Ben is just a magical little baby. (Like all babies are, of course.) Have a great day! Posted by: B. at April 25, 2007 12:56 PMWeeping. Weeping. Weeping. Thank you for your joy. It's palpable in every word here. Posted by: Yolanda at April 25, 2007 12:55 PM |