June 13, 2007

dangerous tea parties

november_teacup2.jpg
November teacup, Lovejoy's Tea Room, SF, Canon Digital Rebel XTi

After my post about friendship, my friend Kalah shared something that I loved. She said,
"When you're feeling most isolated, remember that you can always bring the party to YOU. Friends without children might not have an idea of your daily goings-on and may put off calling because they don't want to be intrusive. Inviting them into your fold reassures them that you still appreciate their friendships and they feel like they're saving you some time and energy when they make the effort to meet you where you are. It's ok to let go of perfectionism when it comes to the state of your home when it comes to visitors--most people understand that you're living the real, visceral life.

In the spirit of bringing the party to me and my favorite SARKism "Invite Someone Dangerous to Tea," I decided to invite the owner of Speesees, Rachel Pearson for tea. (We had only "met" via email after I ordered some goodies) She is pure color, creativity, fun and talent. I was SO inspired by our conversations about business and dreams and love. She made my day and reminded me that one of my greatest pleasures is connecting with other creative women/kindred spirits/people I admire.

Can you invite someone dangerous to tea this week?

Posted on June 13, 2007 09:42 AM
Comments

Andrea, this is a great challenge. I will repost on RookieMoms.com (unless I hear a protest from you.)

Posted by: RookieMom Whitney at June 18, 2007 07:08 PM

i would invite you if you were in georgia!!

Posted by: celisa at June 15, 2007 07:56 PM

Thanks for this. Found it through jenlemen.com. Likely it will inspire a blogpost of my one... good stuff!

Posted by: titration at June 15, 2007 02:40 PM

i love it!
bring the party to YOU.

very clever
and great problem solving!

i have been sick for awhile
and isloated
so i also have been doing the hosting.

luckily when i light a few candles
and put out fresh flowers
no one notices the dust.

happy tea drinking,
love
mc

Posted by: mccabe at June 15, 2007 01:29 PM

good for you!

Posted by: la vie en rose at June 15, 2007 11:49 AM

Wow, this post really hits home. We do not have children yet but we moved to a city where we do not quite fit. Everyone is from here, has stayed here, and is quite comfortable with their group of friends, thank you very much. I have never had a problem making friends but here, it is so hard. It's getting to the point where we might consider moving if the right job pops up.

I would love to invite a friend for tea but they live too far away! Sigh. Thanks for the blogging therapy.

Posted by: Andrea at June 15, 2007 06:51 AM

Parallel thoughts....after reading your post about moving to Berkeley I instantly thought "TEA PARTY!" because we're practically neighbors. There is quite rambling group of East Bay food bloggers who'd thoroughly enjoy your company. If you feel up for some dangerous treats sometime don't hesitate to email me. Myself and a few others are often around for weekday garden gatherings since we freelance.

Posted by: Kung Foodie Kat at June 14, 2007 11:31 PM

feel like coming to australia for a cuppa?

Posted by: Faery at June 14, 2007 08:29 PM

such great advice!

my husband was traveling when we first moved to CA and i felt 'trapped' home. then i realized there was no reason to be home alone once the kiddo went to sleep SO I invited every girl I had met and their friends to bring a dessert to share and we had a ladies night at my home! I still love that night most of all evenings I have lived here. we laughed the night away until well after midnight.

great weekly challenge!

Posted by: liz at June 14, 2007 05:10 PM

gosh, how wise your friend is--i've pretty much stopped calling my friends with children b/c whenever i do, it's never a good time--and invites never happen either. I miss them dearly...this post makes me wonder if they do too.

Posted by: tali at June 14, 2007 04:19 PM

You are always right on reminding me that the universe sends messages and signs. Today you were my sign. For almost 3 months now I have been putting off calling my friend who just had a baby, but because I have danced around so much wondering what would be the right time to call,(That and being busy with my 7 month old)it has turned into being afraid of calling;in fear that she will be mad I havn't called. UGH, this is seriously something in the back of my mind everyday.So here goes nothing dangerous tea here I come.

Posted by: erin at June 14, 2007 03:38 PM

I've always liked that Sarkism a lot, too! I am pondering how I might do this...

Posted by: Emma at June 14, 2007 08:46 AM

you are such a cool chick!! thanks for continually inspiring me. if i didn't live so far away in canada i would be so tempted to ask you over for tea! i wish you would hold some sort of workshop so a bunch of us could fly there and learn from you..on creativity...or small business ownership..anything!

Posted by: kristen at June 14, 2007 07:56 AM

great idea! i love it! this might be the best idea yet. (and i can't help but think that ben would be a great speesees model)

Posted by: jen lemen at June 14, 2007 04:02 AM

Kalah sums it up well - thanks for posting her words! My friends have just had a baby, and I do put off calling at certain times and I do feel as though I should give them more space and time. Little did I know she would be so keen for me to take the day off and go spend some time with her!
Thanks again & have a good day :~)

Posted by: Emily at June 14, 2007 03:12 AM

ohhhh...i am SO glad you did this!

nourishment for your soul.

yes...i will invite someone dangerous over for tea. although i wish it was you, shnookums.

soon...

xoxo

Posted by: boho girl at June 13, 2007 10:14 PM

yes ! I've sort of done this but invited myself to a friends house to take her Pimms & Lemonade on friday

Posted by: m at June 13, 2007 01:48 PM

I have sent a message to the universe that I WANT a creative kindred dangerous spirit to converse with in REAL life. Over a cup of blueberry tea would be simply divine!

Thank YOU for being so inspiring. :)

Posted by: Cheryl at June 13, 2007 01:23 PM

such a good picture...such a good idea.

now, how about you come to sac for tea so i can bite that little baby of yours?!

hope you are well :)

Posted by: amy at June 13, 2007 12:49 PM

Wow, that's a really good idea! But, now that I think of it, most people who could be considered "dangerous" are really the ones who are safe. It's those boring, normal birck-in-the-wall people who are dangerous to our psyche. They make the world seem boring... so unlike you :-)

Posted by: Sabine at June 13, 2007 12:31 PM

Oh my gosh - I was so ready to come out of the introvert closet alone. I had no idea that someone else would think the idea of inviting *anyone* over for *anything* would be dangerous in itself... thanks, lori, for the unexpected camaraderie.

Posted by: Megan at June 13, 2007 12:19 PM

First, I LOVE Lovejoy's. My favorite tearoom anywhere. As for inviting someone dangers to tea this week... hm. Will have to think on that for a minute. I think inviting *anyone* over is dangerous, given than I am less than the social butterfly. I'm all "go away! go away!" :)

Posted by: Lori at June 13, 2007 11:14 AM

a,
i LOVE this!
your friend KALAH is a wise woman indeed and SARK...well, she's just amazing...
wish i could invite you ;-)
k

Posted by: Kirsten at June 13, 2007 10:16 AM