September 24, 2008I see you
My favorite Squam story was from the very first day. The students hadn't arrived and registered yet, and Jen, Jonatha and I were at the town general store getting sandwiches for lunch. After ordering at the deli I turned around to see a pretty little face behind me. (The one pictured above) "Kirsten!" I exclaimed. But wait, there is a wee bit of back story. Kirsten is a superhero journal reader. She is also a blogger and has written me some lovely notes over the years. Before I left for Squam she wrote me the kindest message with the subject line should words fail me. She then shared what my blog has meant to her and what it means to her to meet up in person. I was moved, and made a point to go to her blog and get her name down perfectly. Kirsten, not Kristen. Kirsten, Kirsten, Kirsten. When I saw her at the deli I recognized her immediately. "Kirsten!" I exclaimed. I get very moved every time I share that story. It encapsulates so perfectly the experience that most of us have of feeling like we are not seen, that are voice doesn't matter, that our presence is inconsequential. I think it is tempting to use this gremlin as a way to not express ourselves in the world. Why bother? we think. So and so has already done it, or done it better. Who cares what I do? I still think this thought almost every day. But here's the big secret: Comments
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We all DO matter, and we all have a story to tell. Posted by: Shelly at October 8, 2008 04:48 PMThank you so much for that. For all you have here. I'm tearing up all over the place. In a good way. Posted by: Sarah at October 7, 2008 12:10 PMloveit!loveit!loveit!loveit! xx Posted by: pritha at September 30, 2008 02:15 PMWhat a beautiful story. It's amazing to see the how relationships can begin and strengthen simply by unleashing words from the heart. Posted by: littlepurplecow at September 30, 2008 05:52 AMThis is beautiful -- my eyes have gone moist -- thank you for the treasure of a story this morning. Susan This is beautiful -- my eyes have gone moist -- thank you for the treasure of a story this morning. Susan so true! kelly rae sent me to your blog and i've been loving your posts about gremlins. and, of course, your posts about kelly rae! thanks for your words/ art/ photos/ creative-isms. Posted by: katrina at September 29, 2008 05:55 PMThis made me cry - so sweet. I wish I could get out and go to events like this and meet people like you in person! Getting to do it via blogs is a treat for myself. :) Posted by: Keely at September 29, 2008 04:21 PMI see Kirsten too xx Thankyou for a truly inspiring post! Just this morning I was remembering back to highschool, walking the halls feeling invisible, how unsure of myself I was and how suprised I was anytime someone knew who I was. That was close to twenty years ago now, but I just moved to a new community and in the midst of this transition those old feelings of loneliness and invisiblility are butting their ugly heads... What your post reinforced was that every day, every action, every risky step I take really does matter! Thankyou for the much needed encouragement! It means the world to me! Posted by: jen cox at September 29, 2008 05:56 AMThat is such a sweet story. Posted by: Surcie at September 28, 2008 10:54 AMI just love sweet Kirsten. I am lucky to call her my friend. I just came here for the first time since squam and was able to catch up. I'm so sorry that you were suffering so! I don't think most of us had any idea, but I'm especially oblivious to the goings on around me. I wish I could have added to your comfort in some way and instead i kept my distance assuming that you probably were feeling overwhelmed with all your many fans surrounding you and watching you. You should know that I learned a lot about my inner workings during your class and don't feel so afraid to be who I really am now. It is such freedom understanding those gremlins and where they come from. Thank you for being there through the anxiety. Love and blessings to you, I just love sweet Kirsten. I am lucky to call her my friend. I just came here for the first time since squam and was able to catch up. I'm so sorry that you were suffering so! I don't think most of us had any idea, but I'm especially oblivious to the goings on around me. I wish I could have added to your comfort in some way and instead i kept my distance assuming that you probably were feeling overwhelmed with all your many fans surrounding you and watching you. You should know that I learned a lot about my inner workings during your class and don't feel so afraid to be who I really am now. It is such freedom understanding those gremlins and where they come from. Thank you for being there through the anxiety. Love and blessings to you, that made my eyes fill with tears :-) Posted by: Miss Dot at September 27, 2008 05:46 AMI love this post. I love your blog. About a year ago I did this Leadership course and your site has been so helpful since it ended. The reason why is because every time I'm lost in the drift or questioning something, I come to your site and you are questioning the same thing. I love this post because I too feel very invisible especially at this time of my life and what I'm currently going through. So I guess thank you and do you want to be my life coach? . . . Such a nice sentiment to hear on a day I feel like I totally blend into the wallpaper of the world. I suppose the world does not get rich and colorful and vibrant with talent and eccentric, unique voices unless people get out there to be seen/heard. In a forum where there are too many voices to hear them individually, it can be daunting. Posted by: Trasi at September 26, 2008 06:46 PMAndrea, I also love Kirsten's glasses. ~Sarah Posted by: Sarah at September 26, 2008 05:07 PMAMEN, SISTAH! THANK YOU! Posted by: Laura Neff at September 26, 2008 04:32 PMYes! Yes! Thank you for helping us realize and rejoice in the fact that we ARE Superheros! Gail and I still gush about meeting you - having our picture taken with you - sitting at the blogher table with you and the other shutter sisters. OMG!!! What an awesome treat from the Universe! Indeed, we feel very special when people *see* us, *know* us and are excited to be in our presence. Thank you for spreading that kind of true joy and validation :-) Posted by: Lisa at September 26, 2008 03:14 PMThis is why we love you--your attitude towards your readers, individual and collective. It's telling how often (as with this post) your commenters say "I really needed to hear this today." You create so much more of a feeling of human connection and genuine goodwill towards your audience than any other blogger I have read. Posted by: junewell at September 26, 2008 01:27 PMThanks for this story. Posted by: Sandra Flear at September 26, 2008 11:59 AM"If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is 'thank you,' that will be enough."— Meister Echart. I give thanks for your word, your sharing, and your inspiration. Posted by: Kristina at September 26, 2008 10:17 AMthanks for that lovely reminder :). Posted by: megan at September 26, 2008 08:00 AMHi Andrea! Great post once again! I just finished reading the September issue of O magazine (I know a little late in my reading) and thought of you when I read the coaching article on finding the superhero power within you...I always knew you were onto something with Superhero Designs! Keep up the great work! Posted by: Nancy at September 26, 2008 07:08 AMThis is a lovely post...you are right...we all matter, we are all connected - whether or not at times that is obvious. Posted by: Shawn at September 26, 2008 03:53 AMAh... Andrea, as always this hits the spot. I am trying to write (or rather have been successfully hiding from writing) my personal statement for grad school. I have never been more sure the move... it is a move I make for myself without regard for anyone or anything... for me. And I hesitate... and I hear my demons taunting... and I give in. I must finish it by Monday ... I must... because if I don't it will delay me getting the entire process finished on time. So today more than any other day, I needed your words. Your fierce confirmation that our voices matter, that people notice, that we are seen is what I will use as my inspiration and motivation over the next three days to finish. Thank you ... ever my superhero! Posted by: Anna at September 25, 2008 10:39 PMLovely story! How totally and completely wonderful! Now off to check out Kirsten's blog ...:o) Posted by: Shalet at September 25, 2008 08:22 PMsuch a profound post. it especially hit home for me. i don't feel like i've really been seen after having my 2nd baby 7 weeks ago. something happens the 2nd time around and people just disappear. it's like you don't matter anymore. Posted by: amber at September 25, 2008 07:28 PMThank you for this post Andrea. I fight that gremlin on a regular basis; your words give me strength and hope. ps - That's a beautiful picture of Kirsten! Posted by: Steph at September 25, 2008 06:47 PM"We ALL matter. Wow, is that so hard to remember sometimes. Thanks for sharing. :-) Posted by: Samantha D. at September 25, 2008 10:53 AMlovely story, so true and a beautiful photo....love the necklace! Posted by: Leslie at September 25, 2008 10:32 AMThat was beautiful. You made my day. Thank you. Posted by: Rochelle at September 25, 2008 09:00 AMIt's nice to know that someone else worries about that little gremlin, because I must admit, I do all the time. But I'm reminded of a Dr. Suess quote, something along the lines of 'Say what you mean because the people who mind don't matter and the people that matter don't mind.' Posted by: Jennifer at September 25, 2008 08:51 AMMost of the time in my work I am on the phone. I can't tell you the amount of times people were crazily, enormously grateful to me that I merely ASKED them how they spelled their names. Years ago I regularly talked to a woman named Nary, with an N. Of course, everybody always got it wrong. I finally asked her and she told me yes, it's with an N, but that she really likes to be called "Nary Marie". So that's what I always called her and every time I did I could hear the smile in her voice, even from hundreds of miles away. She was seen. Posted by: Becky at September 25, 2008 08:31 AMI understand exactly how she felt. When I met you at Blogher, when you and Jen Lemen and Odette sat at my table for breakfast, I couldn't believe it. I was overwhelmed - and then I heard your voice and your laughter and your stories of Ben and I knew you were real and true. And so am I. When we went to Glide together on Sunday, I was awe and love and laughter-struck. Thank you for reminding us to ignore the gremlin and to listen to our souls. Thank you for knowing us, for listening to us, for acknowledging us. And for gracing us with beautiful jewels! Posted by: GailNHB at September 25, 2008 07:52 AMthat is such a sweet story! I'm so glad I got a chance to meet you, and be a part of your class. I learned so much that has really helped me now that I am back in the real world. I like to think of beating the gremlins down whenever they pop up... like that one arcade game where you hit the mole! Posted by: stacy kathryn at September 25, 2008 07:49 AMWow, I really needed to hear this today. Thank you... :) Posted by: Susan at September 25, 2008 07:08 AMThank you, thank you, thank you Andrea. How did you know that Gremlin was the one that most frequently whispers in my ear? How I wish I had been at Squam!! Will you be leading another workshop there next year? Posted by: Piper at September 25, 2008 06:24 AMthis made me cry big, happy tears... kirsten is so beautiful and her heart is so pure. i am so happy you shared this story with us. i couldn't agree more! xoxo Posted by: stacy at September 24, 2008 11:27 PMkirsten is so incredibly beautiful and one of the warmest people :) this story is so lovely because it is so true ... thank you for sharing this and that gorgeous photo of her! Posted by: darlene at September 24, 2008 10:31 PMLOVE THIS! you honored beautiful kirsten in such a poignant way, along with your story. glad you got to see each other, in every sense of the word. this makes me so HAPPY! love,
Hi, Andrea. I've been a big fan (and a lurker) for quite a while now. This post just makes my heart glad... and reminds me of my own experience meeting a "real live blogger" in person a few months ago. Of course, there's a blog post... http://reallivepreacher.com/node/184 If you don't have the time, I'll leave you this quote from the last few paragraphs: This is a goodness because this is a human communion that is a sacrament we all may share together." ----- Keep it up everyone! That is a really great little story. One of the best I have read in awhile:) The photo is really beautiful as well, thank you for sharing. I am going to go tell my gremlin to shut the hell up:) Posted by: tricia at September 24, 2008 07:34 PMLife "you know my name" ... wow. thanks, this was a very moving story. I can so relate. Posted by: Imogen at September 24, 2008 07:30 PMthis post is the reason i started reading your blog so long ago. when i read your blog i always feel better about myself. i feel braver and like i should take more chances. thank you andrea for being such a positive influence in my life. whether you realized it or not :) Posted by: jen b at September 24, 2008 07:21 PMAMEN! What a beautiful and powerful way to remind us of our importance in the world! Posted by: Jill at September 24, 2008 06:58 PMThis post brought tears to my eyes on a bundle of different levels. Here are some of them, in no particular order: Like Kirsten, your blog has meant a lot to me too... I've actually linked to it from my own blog (which I haven't posted to in months... perhaps the gremlins are getting to me?) under the title: Inspiration. I've commented infrequently and written you a long email once about how to find the strength to make art. You wrote back, which meant a lot to me. I've chosen not to have a career in art (for now) and instead I'm getting my masters in social work, which I love love love. Today, my supervisor and I did an intake with a woman who is to be a first client this year. My supervisor said something like: "I know this, I've been doing this work for a long time. And Molly is a really good." It felt so good to know that she sees me and that she sees me that way. Also, I love that in your story you were the one who was SEEING Kirsten. It is an important reminder of the power we have as people in this world to impart goodness and joy on others, sometimes in actions as simple as knowing someone's name.
Gosh, I love you! Thank you for this :) Posted by: lisaluckie at September 24, 2008 06:07 PMThank you for this post. I needed to hear it and found it very helpful today. I've been a reader for a few years but never seem to find the "guts" to comment :) Posted by: Jennifer Murray-Szarvas at September 24, 2008 06:06 PMI saw Kirsten! And she is beautiful (inside & out). Thank you, dear Andrea, for this important reminder. I need(ed) it. xo C. Posted by: christine at September 24, 2008 05:42 PMi *heart* these glasses!! Kirsten looks like she's just out from a fairy tale... just grabbing some water before jumping back in magic world... i'm sure stars could be seen following her hair... Posted by: m-c at September 24, 2008 05:16 PMYou are completely set on making sure my Squam light continues to shine, huh? Perfect post. Posted by: cynthia at September 24, 2008 04:40 PMoh how i adore you andrea! i love today's post. Posted by: celisa at September 24, 2008 04:24 PMwow.... you're awesome! Posted by: simone at September 24, 2008 03:37 PMthanks so much for this post andrea! What a lovely story, and I love Kirsten's glasses! Posted by: jen at September 24, 2008 02:56 PMBeautiful! Thank you so much for your amazing words. I've been reading your blog for several months and I am impressed by your vulnerablity. Everytime I read your posts I leave encouraged. I needed to hear this. I often wonder if anyone cares about what I write, think, feel, say. I have been struggling of late with these questions as I try to slip into a new way of living. I'm scared and insecure, but your post gave me an "ah-ha" moment. There are other searchers out there, like me, figuring it all out as we go. I needed that today. Thanks! Posted by: Glad Doggett at September 24, 2008 02:11 PMI want to THANK YOU for this lovely post. I couldn't agree more. Posted by: Terri at September 24, 2008 01:57 PMI don't think we get nearly enough parades for just being ! Things like remembering birthdays is really important. I emailed my my friends in January this year and asked for the dates so I could get out presents and cards. But cards and presents at any time is great. A friend sent me a badge made out of an Indian map to remind me of one of my creative dreams. I was so touched. I love unexpected for no reason at all sending people presents in the posts. Small and simple is good a bar of chocolate, some tea bags, or chewing gum which comes with sarcastic /funny boxes. Posted by: m at September 24, 2008 01:30 PMHear, Hear. Posted by: rowena at September 24, 2008 01:18 PMThank you for sharing this -- all of it. I really needed it, and I applaud you for speaking up. xoxo Posted by: emma at September 24, 2008 01:15 PMwords fail me. I think that's about one of the most important, profound,things you've stated yet, Andrea. "We ALL matter. That's right up there with your beautiful "...we are meant to grow" post that I still have on my wall since 2004. Your bursts of insight about living are so affirming! Great story. Posted by: Shelley Noble at September 24, 2008 12:36 PMAs the mom of a one year old, I'm going to stand here and virtually wave a flag at Kathleen's parade. After that many years, you absolutely deserve a marching band, glittery baton twirlers, and buckets of confetti. Happy 18 years, Mama! Posted by: Erin S at September 24, 2008 12:33 PMJust what I needed on a day when I'm collecting rejection letters! Posted by: Jolie at September 24, 2008 12:30 PMYou've been in my head listening to MY gremlins! Posted by: Wanda at September 24, 2008 12:15 PMi love this story...i love that i got to hear it from both of you... i have been thinking so much about this idea since squam. about the gift i received there of being seen...and the gift of allowing myself to be seen. it is what we all seek...a fundamental soul need. yes. love this. Posted by: liz elayne at September 24, 2008 12:15 PMthank you Andrea, I truly needed that today. Posted by: rosa murillo at September 24, 2008 12:03 PMWow. Thanks for that, Andrea - my stepmom's been a fan for years, and I understand why. Beautiful post! Funny, isn't it, how I'll notice and miss people, but somehow the logical next step of them missing me eludes the thought process. But you're right- we are all special. Thanks for lighting up your patch of the blogosphere. And creating amazing necklaces, too. Mine's been a treasured possession since it was given to me three birthdays ago, and I always wear it with love. Posted by: Christa at September 24, 2008 11:58 AMThat is such a touching story! I think this post will make everyone feel worlds better, too! Posted by: Rachel at September 24, 2008 11:58 AMWhat a wonderful story... That is such a touching story! I think this post will make everyone feel worlds better, too! Posted by: Rachel at September 24, 2008 11:57 AMThank you. I needed that. Posted by: Michelle at September 24, 2008 11:56 AMi heart you, andrea. Beautiful post, friend. And thanks for introducing us to Kirsten -- looks like I now have a brand new blog-read! K. Posted by: Chookooloonks at September 24, 2008 11:40 AMAndrea, This is a beautiful post! So very simple and true. Kirsten is lovely. I was in the Superhero Saturday Class and I'm pretty sure she was in that class....yes?? Kirsten has a beautiful radiance to her...what a sacred gift to be in both your company. Two splendid Gems decorating this world with their sparkles...Andrea and Kirsten....amongst the other lovelies that I met....I saw you both and I thank you for being you. Love, Trish Posted by: Patricia at September 24, 2008 11:30 AMI feel invisible often, so I understand what you are writing about... As a mom now for 18 years...(my oldest just turned 18 today!--Go Connor!)I feel like the background cheerleader to all of my children's successes, trials and journeys... I have often said I want a parade! And a medal! And an awards ceremony kinda like the emmys or the academy awards to honor us "moms" who have applauded behind the scenes for so long... Don't know why this post prompted me to write this but I am leaving it in...just because I heard that little gremlin tell me "no one cares about your parade!" Thank you as always for writing and posting...you are often the boost in my day that moves me towards creating again...little baby steps...will turn into grown up writing and putting myself out there soon (I hope!) I also have to check out Squam it sounds very lovely-- I know this does not comfort you but I wish I could have been there to view the "messiness" you said you experienced with the teaching, anxiety etc..because I feel that when my life is the "messiest" that is the time that I really live! xxoKathleen |